The darkest days of my life.

I'm in the middle of a divorce now.

My wife left me and took my daughter. She told some social workers that I beat her. Ofcourse that's an outragious lie but I am learning that the truth means nothing to her. Apparently she has been cheating on me with someone she works with.

I'll talk about it more later but I hurt so bad right now. I miss my daughter and the thought of my wife cheating cuts me really deep. The Army Central Intelligence Division has begun an investigation into what my wife is doing. Apparently the military isn't pleased with the things she is doing to me. Her unit supports her because she tells them little stories about me beating her or whatever she says.

I've never felt such pain in all of my life. If it weren't for the fact my daughter is out there somewhere I would have left this god forsaken place a long time ago but I can't leave. I can't leave my daughter behind. She's the world to me and I'm going to do everything I can to keep her with me. I can't even see her now. Cathie let me see my daughter one time but the social workers found out and made her stop.

Cathies unit is deploying for war but she doesn't have to go. I think she has been thinking about this for a while and is using a divorce to escape the war as well. I'm sure her boyfriend is helpiong her out on that. She has said a lot of things but I'll get into that stuff later.

All I can really tell you is that I am in a lot of pain right now. I don't understand how she can do this stuff to me. You'd expect me to get mad but that's not the case. For some reason I just can't get mad. I hurt and drown in my sorrow but I just can't get mad at her. I love my wife. I wish she would let me see my daughter. The heart is a strange thing. I should be mad and hate her but instead I feel betrayed and lied to. I just needed to tell somebody.

You guys are a great bunch. I have always respected your clan. I just needed to tell someone.

 

Thanks for your support.

Here's an interesting piece of information.

My mother lets me use her car because she is stationed in Japan. When my wife left she took the car, amoung other things, and fled. Well I contacted the JAG lawyers and they told her to return the vehicle immediatly. So she tells these people that she is sending my mother payments for the car. That was a blunt lie. Her unit believed her but the JAG didn't and so I got the car back. Well yesterday one of her Sgts calls me and starts giving me a hard time about not signing some income tax return crap. He wants me to sign it so she can get some more money.

So after he calls me 3 times in a row I picked up the phone and called my mother and gave her his cellphone number. So Captain Quist called the Sgt and set him straight. He asked her if Cathie had been paying for the car and she laughed and said no. So the truth is coming out.

Her lies are being shown.

 

I'm not really worried about getting mad.

My only real concern is my daughter. If my wife wants to run off and do her own thing... well it's her life. I'm not going to try and make her stay with me. I can't trust her and trust is the foundation of love. The only thing I really want out of my wife is for her and I to be able to get along. I don't want Lydia to have a tough time in life because her father and mother don't get along.

Although I am hurt by my wife I can't really be overly hurt about losing her. I wasn't happy with her anyway. She's intellectually and has no sense of honor, integrity or respect. She'll say and do whatever it takes to get her way. I'm better off without her. I can finish college and not have some raging lunatic freaking out on me because I don't want to watch TV and I don't like eating spaghetti everyday.

I just hope my daughter can deal with this. I really fear Cathie having a boyfriend abuse my daughter. That's why I'm trying to get primary custody.

 

Thanks guys.

I appriciate your support more than you will ever imagine. My wifes unit is getting deployed soon. They've already packed up their stuff and are preping to get on the train and get out of here.

I hope she goes with them. I don't want my daughter growing up around my wife. She's a bit... crazed.

 

Well the CID is taking particular interest in this situation. I also heard that she may get chaptered from the military if she doesn't get her housing arrangement fixed.

If I can get a lawyer I'll win. I have to go to court on the 5th. If I have a lawyer with me to "filter" all the information I know... she's going to suffer from a heavy dose of reality.

Her unit is deploying. Unless she has some physical issue she WILL go with them. In the Army the mission comes first. She's saying she's nondeployable but that is BS.